Dumped after pregnancy.

I dated this man for more than 4 years and we had so many plans together. He promised that we would have a beautiful family and live a happy life. Not even a single day did I ever notice anything fishy or suspicious about him. Love was taking over everything including my career. Little did I know that I would be dumped after pregnancy.

Our love was so strong and we were happy together. We never got intimate in our dating life, but we were both okay since it was an agreement. I was in a world of love and to me, nothing could stop us from accomplishing our dream of living happily ever after.

How Did It Start Upto Dumped After Pregnancy?

On that fateful day, I went to visit my prince Chummy as usual. We had a good time together and the day seemed short. We got so close and could not hide our feelings for each other anymore. One thing led to another and the unexpected happened.

After a couple of weeks, I noticed something was wrong with me. I went to see a doctor and after running some tests on me, he announced my pregnancy. Is it good or bad news? How will my fiancée react to it? How will this affect our relationship? Is he ready to be a father? I had endless questions but no one to answer except him.

How Did He React To The News?

After a long consultation with me, it was time to break the news. At first, he was happy which to me was a big relief. Days passed and he started ignoring me. He could no longer pick up my calls and rarely replied to my text messages.

There I was, scared, confused, sad and stressed. Tears became my food and sleep a nightmare. Hours turned to days and days to weeks. I felt betrayed and devastated. Why me? Why the sudden change? What of all our promises and bright future together? Many questions ran through my mind.

Enough is enough, I decided to visit him and face whatever the problem was once and for all. He did not want to talk to me and the last thing I remember is him telling me to give him time to think. He then kicked me out of his house and after two weeks brought another lady. I could not believe he dared to dump me after I got pregnant with our child.

Why Did You Decide To Commit Suicide?

Days and weeks passed without him telling me anything. One day, he told me we could not be together because he was not ready for marriage. When I asked him the reason, there was no explanation. Imagine someone dumping you after pregnancy yet he was always there for you before.

Being a Christian, abortion was not an option because it is murder. What do I do now? Where do I start? I lost my job and was now pregnant.  Desperation, stress, tears, and suicide became my best friend.

I was tired and helpless with no means of survival. How was I going to survive during the pregnancy? After delivery how am I going to bring up the baby without a job? How will I pay my bills? Who do I turn to being an orphan? What is the point of living such a painful, sad, and desperate life?

There was no one to turn to and the world seemed empty to me. It was as if God had abandoned me as I saw it then.  Perhaps if I end my life, I will not face the pain anymore because there is no pain for non-existence. The pain of being dumped after pregnancy was worse than a mere heartbreak.

I decided to buy poison and end it once and for all. Sure enough, I bought it but my conscience could not allow me to harm an innocent baby. The thought of God punishing me for murder was too much. Maybe if I turn to Him there will be a solution for all my misery, I was now convincing myself.

How Did You Overcome Suicide Thought?

Somehow, I started thinking about the baby. We needed each other despite the problems we were facing. I needed to be a good mother to it and let the past be. Finally, it was time for me to talk to someone maybe to lighten the burden in my heart.

After talking to a friend, it was time for me to wake up and realize all was not lost. She gave me much hope, and reason to live and bring up the baby. I became positive and decided to pick myself up and move on. Although my pregnancy journey was not easy because of financial strain, I had a friend to encourage and support me somehow.

God had mercy on me. I depended on him and asked Him to heal my heart and teach me how to turn a new leaf and start all over. Right now I’m a happy mother to a beautiful baby girl who gives me more reasons to live and work hard.

I forgave that man for the sake of me and my daughter and moved on. I’m no longer bitter nor suicidal because God restored peace, joy, hope, and reasons for me to live and serve him. Even if he dumped me after pregnancy, it was time for me to heal and find my purpose once more.

What Advice Can You Give To Someone Facing a Difficult Situation?

Whatever you go through in your life, first know that ending your life is not and will never be a solution. Sometimes it seems so but when you decide to see things differently, you realize there are better things ahead.

Pick yourself up and tell God to help you start a new life. Surely if God did it for me, He will also do it for you. Never be bitter with life and never give the devil a chance to make you think things will never be better because there is hope for a better tomorrow.

Never lose hope, always trust in God, and talk to someone because you are not alone. Some people face worse than what we are facing and they are positive things will change. Your tomorrow will be better and your life is important. One day you will look back and realize the pain was worth your achievement. Be strong and value your life.