How to Deal With Grief and Acceptance.

Death is the most painful thing in a person’s life since there is no other time to be with them. When one is born, celebrations are all over until they leave for good. In so many cases, one does not know how to deal with the loss and sometimes it leads to depression. How to deal with grief and acceptance is a process that takes time.

The moment you lose a loved one, the chemistry and connection are irreplaceable. In that case, you think the gap will always remain as a wound that cannot heal. Yes, loss is extremely painful but for how long will you hold on to the pain and not accept the reality? Unfortunately, this can happen to anyone at any time since death has no date. How can you overcome the pain?

Take part in all activities before and after burial.

I have seen people isolate and distance themselves when plans and preparations for the burial are underway. That leads to more pain afterward since all the activities never existed in your memory. After the burial, it is when reality hits you hard that something is going on. When people finally leave to their respective homes, the event of what happened hits so hard. What is the importance of engaging in the activities before the send-off?

• Your mind is adapting to someone’s permanent absence.
• Hearing people talk about the deceased prepares your mind for the life ahead.
• Engaging in the activities gives you a clear picture of their empty space.
• All the activities make you understand that they will never return.
• You give them their last gift.
• You create a permanent space between you and them.
• You see them being taken to their final resting place and begin a life in their absence. 

Give yourself time to deal with grief and acceptance through mourning.

When a loved one is gone, many events happen before the burial. That leads to being engaged all through until they are laid to rest. What happens after that day? There was no emotional and mental reality during the preparations. There were many people around hence leading to a period of pending acceptance. Sometimes the whole issue becomes a dream that you wish never to wake up from.

What next? After the burial, people leave, and friends stop calling and visiting after some time. Reality hits that there is a permanent absence of a loved one. The space they occupied in your heart begins to yearn for them. You hold on to the hope that maybe it was a journey and they’ll be back soon. Acceptance begins to doom since no one embraces death.

How to mourn.

Mourning is personal and unique depending on the relationship with the deceased. Some people engage in activities in order to avoid thinking about their loss. Others isolate themselves while some talk about it to ease the pain. Whichever works for you is fine but some ways can lead to permanent wounds or death. How to deal with grief and acceptance flows with time.

Losing a loved one is like a bad nightmare but the process of mourning them is sometimes dangerous too. As much as there is loss, mental health is important. Isolation is more harmful than talking and being labeled as weak and emotional by those who do not understand how you mourn. Sinking into depression will be another burden to the mourner and the family although one rarely knows when being driven to it.

Healthy mourning and acceptance.

Someone is wondering what healthy mourning is. It is mourning in a way that the outcome will lead to less damage. When the pain is too much, one does not know how to come out of it. Have you ever heard of someone losing their life after the death of a loved one? There are several such incidents simply due to shock. No matter the closeness, the first step to healing is acceptance.

No one is immune to pain and as much as it hurts, it is always good to remember there is life afterwards. Never torture your mind to the point of depression due to loss. That’s not what the deceased wished. Acceptance is what leads to healthy mourning. Some of us have lost more loved ones than one can imagine but whoever is alive fights another day. Some days are better than others but killing yourself with too many thoughts, questions, and regrets will never bring them back.

What is the importance of acceptance?

They are gone never to return in this life. This is the hardest reality to accept. Living with the hope of seeing them again is only worsening the pain. Once you release someone and let them rest, the burden of unrealistic imaginations becomes lighter. No matter how much they meant to you, their time on earth has expired and you have no control over life and death.

It is important to understand that we all have our expiry date which no one knows when. Two hearts will never agree to separate which is why death is an unwelcome thief that steals the joy. Even if we keep saying that death is cruel, we cannot hinder it from taking away people. That is why the moment it strikes, acceptance becomes important. That does not mean you stop mourning, no. It means reality sticks to the mind even during that period.

Every person has a way of recovering from the pain but it should never lead to another tragedy. No matter how close both of you were, always remember that person is in a better place and wishes you well. Appreciate the moments shared together but let them live their new life as yours continue. Death is only the end of this life and we cannot stop it no matter how good we are.

Each day we long to see our loved ones over again but no one knows when the unexpected visitor called death comes to steal our loved ones. Remember how to deal with grief and acceptance depends on individuals. What comes to your mind when you hear the word death or have you ever lost someone close? How did you overcome it or deal with the pain?